Sit With Me Awhile

There is something strange that seems to happen after a breakup.

At some point, the person you once loved suddenly feels the need to let you know just how well they’re doing now.

And not in a normal, healthy way.

In a very specific kind of way.

The kind where they casually mention things that make you stop and think:

Why on earth would you say that to your ex?

Recently, during a conversation, Michael told me about how many women want him now.

And not just women.

Apparently married women too.

I remember sitting there thinking… what exactly am I supposed to do with this information?

Applaud?

Be jealous?

Take notes?

Because from where I was sitting, it just sounded bizarre.

I mean, we are two adults who shared years of life together, and somehow the conversation has turned into a strange highlight reel of who finds him attractive now.

And it made me realize something.

Exes do this all the time.

Not always the exact same way, but the energy is the same.

They want you to know:

“I’m doing great.”
“People want me.”
“My life is exciting now.”

And sometimes it feels less like confidence and more like someone trying very hard to prove something.

The funny thing is, when someone is truly secure and happy in their life, they usually don’t feel the need to perform it for their ex.

They just live it.

So when these moments happen now, I mostly sit there quietly thinking the same thing.

What an odd thing to say to someone you once built a life with.

Maybe it’s ego.

Maybe it’s insecurity.

Maybe it’s someone trying to convince themselves they’re okay.

All I know is this.

The older I get, the less interested I am in those kinds of conversations.

If someone needs to prove how desirable they are to their ex, they’re probably still stuck in a competition that I’ve already stepped out of.

And honestly?

I’m perfectly fine leaving them there.